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Relationship Anarchy is not Polyamory

Relationship Anarchy is not Polyamory

God, or indeed the devil (as they say), is in the detail. Relationship anarchy (RA) is sometimes included under the polyamory umbrella, sometimes not. And yet many practices fall under the poly category – triads/triangles and other geometries, polyfidelity, open marriage/open relationships, swinging (though there is some debate on whether this should be included); so […]

By December 23, 2013 1 Comments Read More →
Love, Mindfulness & Zen In An Open Relationship

Love, Mindfulness & Zen In An Open Relationship

My new boyfriend wants a family. Never say never, but it probably won’t be with me. Because you see, I already have a beautiful family with my [equally beautiful] core partner of 6 years. My new boyfriend and I knew this when we started dating 4 months ago. But life is designed to be lived […]

By December 18, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
Interview with Kimchi Cuddles – Poly Awareness Through Comics

Interview with Kimchi Cuddles – Poly Awareness Through Comics

Comics have a unique educational style. I started with Garfield, worked through Dilbert, had my mind opened by The Far Side and laughed til I cried at Calvin & Hobbes. Capturing relevance and provoking emotional response is a hard task in a 500 word blog post, let alone a four panel drawing. …Introducing Kimchi Cuddles, […]

By December 17, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
Anarchy From Within – How Germans Practise Free Love

Anarchy From Within – How Germans Practise Free Love

Even if ‘Unity, Justice and Freedom’ is considered the unofficial national motto, that’s not what springs to mind when foreigners think of Germany. You might think immediately of their incredible organization, their love of rules and beautifully shameless attitude to sex. You might also remember their extraordinary powers of thinking which produced great philosophers like […]

By December 9, 2013 2 Comments Read More →
Polyamory, This Season’s Gay

Polyamory, This Season’s Gay

In the battle for the right to choose how to demonstrate your sexuality, polyamorists are the new ‘convenient issue’, the latest depraved people to pick on. We are the slippery slope. Because the mind loves polarities of definition. A polarity of definition is an unnatural polarity; it is an invention of the mind for the […]

By December 3, 2013 1 Comments Read More →
Hotwifing & Cuckolding – The Matriarch Reigns Supreme

Hotwifing & Cuckolding – The Matriarch Reigns Supreme

I get ready for our night out. My black leather collar with rhinestones is the centerpiece of my outfit. He comes up behind me, pressing himself into my ass. “I’m fucking him tonight, and I’m so excited for you to fuck me afterwards,” I whisper to him. He moans excitedly, anxious for the action to […]

Rewriting the Rules by Dr. Meg Barker

Rewriting the Rules by Dr. Meg Barker

As Terry Pratchett’s great sage Granny Weatherwax put it ‘Sin young man, is when you treat people as things including yourself, that’s what sin is.’ It’s an unlikely reference to find in a book which appears from the outside to be a psychology text book, and yet that’s just one of the ‘spoonfuls of sugar’ […]

By November 27, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
Lack of Maternal Love – A Driver for Polyamory?

Lack of Maternal Love – A Driver for Polyamory?

In our monogamous world, falling in love with more than one person results often not in a dream come true, but rather a nightmare. That nightmare could involve Lying, cheating and betrayal; Telling your significant other, risk losing them and breaking up your family; The discovery of polyamory and the risk of rejection by family […]

By November 20, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
Why Women Are the Catalyst & Foundation for Polyamory

Why Women Are the Catalyst & Foundation for Polyamory

In the hetero-normative world, you say open relationship and most men think ‘threesome’. You’d have therefore thought that would be a popular option for many. But as it turns out polyamory, a truly egalitarian multi-partner ideology, is strongly vilified in our patriarchal world. Because what is sauce for the goose, is definitely not sauce for […]

By November 18, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
Singleish, Polyamorous & Me

Singleish, Polyamorous & Me

I teach children English, film media & drama. It’s a creative mix. But most people don’t imagine even the creative teachers being polyamorous, bisexual and into BDSM. And that’s a lot of why, I’ve never opened up; never told my story. Because knowing that just by being me, I might be rejected from the job […]

By November 15, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
What Does Non-Traditional Relationship Utopia Look Like?

What Does Non-Traditional Relationship Utopia Look Like?

What if you could be openly welcomed with both your lovers at the local chemist… what if coming out as trans, queer or poly was simply one of many choices during adolescence… what if going to a dungeon to play kinky games on a Saturday night was as accepted as going out for a curry… […]

3 Big Questions About Open Relationships

3 Big Questions About Open Relationships

My sister-in-law has a new boyfriend who doesn’t want to meet her ex-husband. Not for a second. Not even to say hello, let alone a coffee. He can’t bear the thought of her having had sex with her ex- (which they obviously did at least twice because they have two children together). This behavior is […]

By November 4, 2013 5 Comments Read More →
Why Jealousy Is a Wonderful Opportunity

Why Jealousy Is a Wonderful Opportunity

‘I’m also polyamorous’, said my friend. ‘But only one way. I can see myself with many women, but I couldn’t stand my wife being with many men. I’m just a jealous person.’ My friend has an IQ of 145. That means his rational mind functions better than 99% of the population.  But in 5 words […]

By October 28, 2013 3 Comments Read More →
What Will the Land of Liberty Make of Polyamory?

What Will the Land of Liberty Make of Polyamory?

All of a sudden, polyamory is everywhere. Articles flood the internet, many of them are opinion pieces written by people who (so far) identify as monogamous. One of the reasons this is happening is to keep the news cycle churning now that gay marriage seems to be approaching normalcy. The clue is in the name; […]

By October 22, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
My Problem with Monogamy – Comfort over Happiness

My Problem with Monogamy – Comfort over Happiness

Everyone asks why. Why take the risk of having an open relationship? They perceive open as ‘non-committed’. Why take the risk of being polyamorous when you are so happy together? They perceive polyamory as a simple choice rather than a choice and an inclination. Rather than argue those misconceptions, my answer is this. The reason we are so blissfully […]

By October 14, 2013 2 Comments Read More →
The Exposed Wound – How Polyamory Healed our Codependent Relationship

The Exposed Wound – How Polyamory Healed our Codependent Relationship

My ex-husband got married this summer. To my boyfriend’s ex-wife. Once we were a quad. Four people together living and loving together. And although we all agreed to stay together for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, that’s not quite how it worked out. Shit happens.

By October 9, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
Love Unlimited By Leonie Linssen & Stephan Wik

Love Unlimited By Leonie Linssen & Stephan Wik

The Joys & Challenges of Open Relationships One of the bigger challenges in polyamory (and that’s saying something) is the new(er) and growing phenomenon of solo-polyamory (or singleish as coined by blogger Polly Singleish). And yet in this stunningly undiscovered book published in 2010 by polyamorous authors Leonie Linssen & Stephan Wik the first chapter opens like […]

By October 7, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
7 Things You Should Know About Open Relationships

7 Things You Should Know About Open Relationships

So you’ve thought about it, and you think you might want to try an open relationship. An open relationship means more sex, right? Well, maybe. But not before you’ve done a lot of talking. And reading. And researching. And then some more talking. Whilst polyamorous authors Franklin Veaux & Eve Rickert work on their forthcoming […]

By October 4, 2013 0 Comments Read More →